It’s fascinating how language evolved. From a few sounds to communicate essential information, to “selfie.” And “twerk.”
Something has been on my mind, and I’d hoped I’d be able to really collect my thoughts and write a comprehensive article on it, but that doesn’t seem to be happening, so I’m just sharing what I’ve been thinking. Definitely vague, possibly incoherent, seeminglyjudgmental(?), but you’ll get it if you’ll get it.
Now, I really like words. I like writing, being able to express myself well, get a point across in conversation. It goes without saying that I love reading too. What fascinates me and pisses me off equally, is the fact that there are the right words to communicate everything.
Words have been put together to say “distance makes the heart grow fonder.” But words have also been put together to say “out of sight, out of mind.” They say “birds of a feather flock together,” and they say “opposites attract.” I’ve read the most convincing of quotes about letting go, but I’ve also read the most sincere words about holding on. I’ve been advised by things I’ve heard and read that I am the most important person in my life and I am all I have and I should care for myself above all, but then I’ve also been moved by words that have told me, that what I do for myself, dies with me, what I do for others, lives on, what matters in life is to love truly and give generously.
Two absolutely opposite ideas, given the right words, can both be made to sound perfect. That’s okay if on the scale of right / wrong, moral / immoral, both are positive or neutral. However, since the advent of social media, I’ve found a lot of negative ideas being justified too convincingly. And that pisses me off. Some might say there’s nothing like right / wrong, moral / immoral, it’s all subjective. I humbly disagree. Killing, hurting, lying, cheating, stealing – definitely wrong, definitely immoral. And then of course, this is only my opinion, so there are some things that I feel are wrong, and it pisses me off when “itz mah lyf mah attitewd” quotes and sarcastic e-cards make them sound cool.
I’ve read articles that advocate being selfish, articles that would have you believe that selfishness is a virtue. I’ve heard people justify their recklessness with a “YOLO.” And it pisses me off.
People are so keen on making comebacks that it’s difficult to have an actual conversation. What if I don’t want to be witty? Do people just talk anymore? Just say things without consciously and effortfully making them sound cool. (So effort. Much cool. Wow like.) There’s so much sarcasm in the way a lot of people respond these days. What happened to kindness? Kindness is cool. I insist.
Sarcastic responses, inappropriate jokes, all start out as humour, and people wanting to be seen as witty and funny, with wanting to give off the “I don’t care what people think about me, I’m cool” vibe, but lately I’ve had the feeling that people are so busy being witty / funny / sarcastic / trying to get likes / trying to seem cool and be popular, that people are forgetting to be good people.
Sometimes, I think that in the quest for individualism and individual ambitions, we’ve gone too far. We as a generation have tipped over to the side of selfishness and insensitivity. I vote for more love, more sincerity, more kindness.